My mother has been to see me only a couple of times since she died The last time she visited she came with my grandmother, who died in 1954. Now I ought to make it clear that on both these occasions I was quite poorly. Mother came once in early 2000, when I was very sick with complications after heart surgery, and then again a year ago, when I was running a high fever and hospitalized with H1N1 (Swine Flu). Both times she simply stood in the open doorway of my bedroom — last year, with my gran beside her. The first time I saw her she was not smiling,…